One of the reasons we scheduled our "slide night" for tonight (see previous post) instead of heading to Saddleback Church for the 4:30 service as is our usual Saturday night schedule is because of the church's plans for tonight's service. The sermon subject will be holding marriage together in a recession, which I'm sure is something a lot of people can use right now, but they also plan to do something different at the end. Rick and Kay Warren just celebrated their 35th wedding anniversary and they're going to "renew their vows" in front of the whole church and invite other couples to join in.
No thanks.
No offense to any of you who have done these "vow renewal" ceremonies at some point in your marriage. If that's something that was meaningful to you, great! However, my wife and I have always had the attitude that #1 we're not aware of any expiration date on our vows, and #2 we got it right the first time. If we did attend tonight we would not participate in the vow renewal, and that would make for an awkward time. Many couples will undoubtedly feel they are being pressured by the situation to participate, or will feel the need to leave the service. It's just not worth the emotional energy.
I hope it's meaningful for those that attend, but I think we'll just join the family for some entertainment at our own expense - photos from the 60's and 70's.
Saturday, June 26, 2010
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I agree with you 100%. We celebrated 45 this month, and have never felt the need for a renewal. I guess we do it every morning when we decide that we still love each other, and will continue to do so.
Love is not an emotion, but a decision.
I agree with you 100%. We celebrated 45 this month, and have never felt the need for a renewal. I guess we do it every morning when we decide that we still love each other, and will continue to do so.
Love is not an emotion, but a decision.
When you do it right and keep the Love fire burning every day, you have no need to try something like a 'renewal'. If you keep this love affair burning it will not expire until one or both partner's exit this life. Enjoy your night of photos and reliving those wonderful moments of the past.
To be a devil's advocate...What would it cost your relationship to publicly renew your vows? Clearly the assembled people would know from your demeanor that it was not necessary, but simply a statement of adoring wonder.
Some married couples might gain something from renewing their marriage vows if they were on the verge of breaking up. Repeating the vows might shake them up some when they realize exactly what those vows were and what they had committed themselves to, otherwise
I think it would be rather meaningless to most married couples if they have a good marriage relationship going.
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